One thing we hear from time to time at ChoreMonster when explaining our product is ‘Well, I shouldn’t have to bribe my kids to do housework.’ I get it, I’ve felt this way personally at times when it comes to my kids and their role in our home. After all, we give them shelter, food, clothing and of course love. Shouldn’t they do some stuff around the house without the promise of reward points?
The answer isn’t as easy as you think, but I’ll tell you one thing, rewards are not bribes, at least they shouldn’t be. When you reward your kids for cleaning their room with some ChoreMonster points, it should be motivating. When you reward your kids with ChoreMonster points for helping to clean out the garage, it should also carry with it the satisfaction of a job accomplished and (hopefully) a job well done.
In the real world, we have a hard time doing stuff that we don’t see results from. If you worked a solid two weeks at your job and never received a paycheck, you’d probably not feel very inclined to continue the work without the promise of compensation, right?
At the same time, I don’t give my kids ChoreMonster points for remembering to put the milk back in the fridge or for lifting the toilet seat when they pee (BOYS!)
I also don’t give rewards in desperate moments. If we are on a car ride and the kids are misbehaving, I don’t get to the end of my rope and promise 100 points to everyone if they can just shut up. I don’t think that sets a good precedent. They aren’t learning from doing a job or receiving positive reinforcement when I’m just sick of their crap and want it to stop.
All that said, if you are having an issue that might seem simplistic with one of your kids, and ChoreMonster points and the rewards that it leads to can make a positive difference in your home, don’t be afraid to try it out. Every kid is different and every household is different.
So I guess the point is, if you are using ChoreMonster as a bribe, you’re doing it wrong. Remember why you decided to implement it in your home, to make chores fun for your kids, to help them learn responsibility and how to work towards and achieve a goal.