“You take the good, you take the bad, you take them both and there you have the facts of life.”
I might be showing my age by starting a blog post with a 1980’s sitcom jingle but whatever. For some strange reason when I think about parenting sometimes this very line gets stuck in my head like that absolutely horrible Gangnam Style song which makes me want to tear my ears off.
And if I can separate Blair and Tootie from the words of the jingle, it actually rings true. I crave a certain amount of consistency when it comes to parenting, but it just doesn’t happen very often. I get a great week out of my 15 year old when he uses his cell phone in appropriate ways and then I find out he lied about something else. My 12 year old is kind and considerate for a couple of weeks and then turns into a selfish jerk all of a sudden. Even my 8 year old will go through a spurt of having to be told to do something 87 times before acknowledging it.
I don’t bring this stuff up to make my kids look bad, they aren’t different from most kids their age when it comes to erratic behavior…..right?
I bring it up because it’s yet another parenting challenge that I just can’t figure out how to deal with fully. I don’t expect perfection from my guys, and of course love them even when they screw up but for some reason a week or two of great behavior really starts to put me in a place of irrational comfort. And then I get back to that Facts Of Life quote again. And I have to take the good, and take the bad.. and well, you get the idea.
As much as I crave that consistency when it comes to parenting, I realize more and more that it just isn’t going to happen. So I have to take it all and just run with it. I have to try to be more patient when the bad stuff is rising to the top and appreciate the times when things are really good.