When You’re Sick Of Nagging

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Here at ChoreMonster, we know how important chores are, and how vital it is that they are kept age appropriate. Of course, we didn’t come up with this popular chart that seems to make the rounds through social media channels pretty regularly.

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It’s a pretty good chart, but that isn’t what got me interested in this regularly talked about topic. It was this blog post from the New York Times that really got me thinking. Here is an excerpt.

My own kids have done most of those things (I’m afraid dusting baseboards and disinfecting doorknobs haven’t been on our list). They can do the big ones for their ages (they’re 7, 8, 9 and 12): weed garden, fold clothes, make a meal, do simple home repairs. And sometimes they do.

And sometimes they don’t. Why not? Because too often, I don’t make them — and sometimes, I don’t even ask.

Once I’ve nagged them into clearing their plates and nagged them into feeding the dogs and cats and nagged them into picking up their socks off the floor, I tend to open the full dishwasher, shrug and realize that I would far, far rather spend the seven minutes it will take to empty it than nag anyone yet again.

The result is a scattershot approach that has not, as yet, resulted in children who do much of anything unless you ask, ask again, ask a third time, and then holler. We have a chore wheel, perused with dedication to determine who feeds which animals at which part of the day, but several of the chores on it (“clean kitchen” and “empty dishwasher” spring to mind) go undone.

First of all, let me just say that I feel this way ALL THE TIME! It’s way easier to do things myself than to nag my kids into doing them. And I’m even talking about stuff that they SHOULD totally be doing. I also should say that I have no problem with this article, the writer is very honest about her situation and I applaud her for that, she said some things that many of us feel on a daily basis.

Of course, you might know where I’m going next though. Yep, ChoreMonster.

I can honestly say that a tool like ChoreMonster can be the difference between nagging and peace in the home. Call it positive reinforcement, call it the answer to terrible chore wheels or call it making chores fun, all of these things are true, and all of them can turn around a struggling household.

Of all the things I thought might be difficult about having children, I never realized it would be so much work to get them to do any work

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Again, so true!

And again, I really think that this is a classic frustration for parents who have yet to try something like ChoreMonster. No, it’s not the magic potion that will make your kids love household chores, but it is an option that can set your kids, and your household, up for success.

I hope that the blogger I referenced here at least gives it a look, and that seeing this honest account can motivate others towards trying a new plan of action.

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