Your alarm goes off at 6 o’clock, time for another day. You get the kids up, dressed, fed, and then scurry out the door in an attempt to make sure everyone gets to school on time today. Then it’s your turn to race to work. But, let’s face it. Rush-hour traffic puts a pretty big dent in your top speed. The next eight hours seem to slip by, and suddenly you’re on the go again, rushing home to feed the kids, walk the dog, carpool to soccer practice; the list goes on and on. Suddenly, it’s 10 o’clock, and you’ve barely seen, let alone spoken to your partner all day. Sound familiar?
While this busyness is a part of modern day parenthood, there’s no denying that it can take a toll on your relationship. As you selflessly care for your children and household, somehow the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with falls to the wayside. That doesn’t seem quite fair now, does it? Fortunately, there’s mastermind of multitasking that can help you and your partner stay in touch even on the busiest of days. It’s as simple as using your smartphone as a tool to stay connected and have fun together.
We’re all constantly on our phones. Whether we’re scrolling through work email or sneaking a peek at our Facebook feed there always seem to be enough time in the day for a little social media break. What do you actually gain from scrolling aimlessly through Facebook or Instagram? Wouldn’t you rather be spending that time on your relationship? Simply replace your social media habits with a few new habits can do wonders to bring couples together.
Check In With Each Other
While it may be easy to make it through the day without speaking to your significant other, it’s also easy to send a quick text. Simply checking in throughout the day to let them know you are thinking about them is a great way to strengthen your connection. These texts can also ensure you’re both sticking to your goals. For example, if your New Year’s resolution involved losing weight or eating better, a funny, “I know it’s 3 o’clock, and you’re hungry but RESIST THE DONUTS” text can be just what you need to make it through the day. It literally takes seconds to send a text, but can make a huge difference!
Find New Ways to Play Together
There are countless smartphone games and apps that can help make time apart fun, together. Whether you’re into sending funny Snapchats to one another or battling over Words with Friends, playing is a great way to keep the spark alive, especially when time together is short. Friendly competition can be the exact thing needed to spice things up. Or, if competition isn’t your thing, there are always other ways to keep things interesting. Teens shouldn’t be the only ones getting frisky with their smartphones. Take a risk and send that racy text. Although it won’t make up for the lack of time the two of you have together, it could make the time you do have, better than you ever imagined.
While it’s important to care for children and focus on careers, it’s just as important to take care of your relationship. At times it can be difficult to remember how life was when it was just the two of you, falling in love and having no one else to think about but each other. A few aspects of technology can help get that spark back. Making your partner feel special can be as simple as pressing a few buttons – so there is really no excuse not to try! Although the quantity of time you get to spend together may not get any better, the quality of time you spend together can.
Kali Muir is an ambitious freelance writer with a BA in Communications. She was born in Canada but has since lived in Norway, Denmark, and England. Her work experience is as diverse as her past addresses, including roles in technical communication, corporate communication, marketing, and article writing. She has experience working in varied business sectors: Oil & Gas, Engineering & Technology, Clothing & Equipment Retail, and Creative Writing. Follow Kali’s professional and personal journey at www.kalimuir.com, or connect with her on LinkedIn and Twitter.